Leadership is hardest through the
in-between
Most leaders are trained to act, decide, and move forward.
That brings success, until you find yourself in a place where old routines no longer work and the new ones haven’t taken hold yet.
Maybe you got the role you dreamed of, and now it feels frightening.
Or you moved to a new country and have no roots or community.
Or you no longer want to trade time for money and decide to scale what you’ve built.
Or you’re burnt out and quietly considering selling it.
This is the in-between space leaders rarely talk about, because you don’t yet know if, or how, you’ll come out the other side.
I work with leaders — and train coaches — to stay present here, so something truer can take root and grow.
From the outside, things may look fine. You’re respected, and your past accomplishments speak for themselves.
And yet, something is no longer aligned — inside you, or between you and your environment.
You spend time with people who take more energy than they give.
The tasks that fill your days are important, but no longer feel significant.
As long as tomorrow looks like a repetition of today, you feel you can keep a firm grip on the wheel.
Still, the tension inside you remains. You probably feel divided between who you’ve been and who you sense you could become.
You’re grappling with an adaptive challenge — one that asks more of your inner world than your outer performance.
Nature has already solved this problem.
Banyan trees grow aerial roots — roots that extend from their branches and slowly reach toward the ground. For a while, they hang unanchored and exposed. In time, they take root and become part of the trunk.
Adaptive leadership works in a similar way.
Through the in-between, you begin to grow new roots before you know where you will stand.
This can feel unstable and exposed, especially if you’re used to firm ground and clear direction.
This phase is often misunderstood. It’s treated as something to fix, bypass, or move through as quickly as possible. But that urgency is part of the problem.
Here, leaders outgrow old ways of being. Clear answers give way to better questions. Control gives way to a steadier, inner authority.
Though this phase can feel uncomfortable, slow, and unfamiliar, it is also where mature leadership is formed.
Your guide through the in-between:
Tunde Horvath, MCC
I am not here to give you answers or tell you who to become.
I am here to name what is happening, hold the tension with you, and help you listen to what is emerging beneath the noise.
I help you:
See underneath the surface
Stay with uncertainty without rushing to false clarity
Integrate conflicting inner parts instead of fighting them
Reconnect with a sense of inner authority that feels embodied and real
I work at the intersection of leadership practice, psychology, and lived experience.
This work is research-informed, grounded, and deeply human.
I work at the level where thinking, emotion, and body intelligence meet because adaptive challenges do not live in the intellect alone.
This is slow work by design. And it is precisely why it lasts.
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